“They Know What I Mean” — The Assumption That Quietly Derails Succession


Hi Reader,

“They know what I mean.”

That assumption has created more leadership confusion in family businesses than most owners realize.

In many LBM operations, communication relies heavily on familiarity. Families work side by side for years. Conversations happen on the fly. Expectations feel implied rather than stated.

And over time, people begin assuming everyone is on the same page.

But assumptions are not communication.

And during leadership transitions, that gap becomes expensive.

I worked with a third-generation dealer who believed his son was already beginning to take over purchasing and vendor management responsibilities.

In his mind, the transition was underway.

The problem? He never clearly said it.

The son believed he was simply observing and helping where needed—not stepping into authority.

The result?

  • Key orders were delayed
  • Supplier relationships became strained
  • Frustration grew on both sides

The father assumed the son was hesitant to lead.

The son assumed he wasn’t allowed to.

Both were well-intentioned.
Both were frustrated.
And the business was the one paying the price.

The Real Cost

Assumed expectations create invisible friction inside leadership teams.

When roles and authority are unclear, businesses often experience:

  • Delayed decisions and operational slowdowns
  • Frustration between generations
  • Hesitation from emerging leaders who aren’t sure where they stand
  • Micromanagement from current leaders who feel things aren’t moving forward
  • Succession plans that exist in theory—but not in practice

Over time, the organization gets stuck in a leadership gray zone:

Responsibility is shared.
But accountability is not.

The Fix

Strong succession plans are built on clarity—not assumptions.

The strongest family businesses create structure around leadership transition long before ownership changes hands.

That means:

Define roles in writing
Even for family members. Especially for family members.

Create a succession roadmap
Outline milestones, decision authority, and leadership timelines clearly.

Hold regular alignment meetings
Consistent one-on-one conversations surface confusion before it becomes conflict.

Encourage questions and feedback
Emerging leaders should be able to ask for clarification without feeling like they’re overstepping.

When expectations are clearly stated, both generations can focus less on interpretation—and more on building the future.

The Bottom Line

Succession rarely fails because families lack commitment.

More often, it fails because expectations remain unspoken.

The strongest LBM businesses treat leadership transition like any other critical operational process:

With clarity.
With communication.
And with intentional development.

Best regards,

Emily

Emily Overson Consulting
Strategic Growth Analyst
507-380-0941
EOC@emilyoverson.com
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